My mom has more problems than we knew. Her arteries in her neck are clogged up. 95% in one and 60% in the other. She also needs a heart valve. SHe is confused in her speech. She tries very hard to communicate but the words coming out sometimes dont make sense. For example she is trying to get out of bed (she cant walk) and I ask her what she wants. She says "glass from the refrigerator". There is no refrigerator and no glass, we are in a hospital. On one of these occasions it turned out she wanted to be slid higher on the bed but others we dont know what she was trying to say. She hands us a notepad and says "thorn it". When we dont understand she pronounces thorn very slowly as if that will make a difference. Then she gets frustrated that we dont understand.This is all rather frightening. It could be that shes not getting enough blood to her brain from the blockages in her neck or it could be she has dementia or alzheimers or something going on. She needs surgeries to correct that and her heart valve but they wont do them until she has Medi-cal ( Medicaid in many states) and she had no birth certificate or ID> We've got the birth certificate but I dont see how we are supposed to get her ID when she is in the hospital and her face is all blacked besides. Its obvious my stepdad can't take care of her on his own but then what to do about that. I have 4 people and one on the way in a 2 bedroom apartment, I cant fit anyone else here. Her house is too small for us to all move into...... I dont know what we are gonna do.
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
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My dad had similar issues due to hypoxia. He wasn't getting enough oxygen because of the congestive heart failure and he refused to wear his oxygen. His vascular issues only worsened the dementia. He was lying in the bed and suddenly grabbed the side rails frantically. When we asked what was wrong he said "I'm falling out of this goddamn chair!" But he wasn't falling--he was remembering the last fall he had before he ended up in the hospital.
Vascular issues and lack of oxygen are likely making your mother confused. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I wish I could offer more than my understanding and best wishes.
It isn't easy Raine but it is doable. It takes so much time before communication comes back. Her frustration and yours will end but not right away. Hang in there and know I am praying for you and your mom.
I understand they are worried about getting bad but dog on it, I'm pretty sure those docs had to take an oath when they graduated. I guess it doesn't count much.
Sounds very confusing and yes, frightening.
That was supposed to be "getting paid".
Can you split the group in two and one stays with you and another stays at your moms?
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. It is so hard to see a love one suffering. Standing here with you.
holding you tight in our heart, we are hoping for your moms speedy recovery and damnit all if they have to wait for medicaid seriously???? thats just plain f*cked up. Our grandma is in a nursing home right now because she has alzheimer's and there is noone to look after her in the family. we cant really offer anything from so far away but we are thinking of you both ((((( HUGS ))))
As Amanda saied, there should be the possibility to split the group. I have no idea about the system there, but with a valid birth certificate and a written testimony that the lady is in a serious condition in hospital at least a temporary ID card should be available.
They can not do nothing and simply watch the lady struggling with the arteries that stuffed, bypasses must be done, its their fucking duty.
Same here for my Dad. Once they cleared the blockages, it made a big difference. I will be thinking of you and sending good thoughts your way.
I hope you found some time for yourself, Raine.
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