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Saturday, February 6, 2010

Thank- you friends

You know, once upon a time a very sick woman wandered into a chat room seeking understanding and peer support. The name of this chatroom was New Beginnings. I think I wandered in for the "first time" a few times cause I had severe memory issues due to ECT and kept doing the same things over and over , forgetting I had already done them. Anyway, some people from this chat room were dissatisfied and thought they could do better and started " Sanity is Overrated". Eventually I became an owner/manager there. During this time I met some people who have become very dear and close friends. They listened to all my crises with my daughter and empathized with my pain, worry and despair. Now said daughter is in the process of turning her life around. What I find amazing is that when we were all in these chatrooms we were pretty much down on ourselves, many of us were ashamed of being mentally ill. We thought we were damaged, useless, etc etc. My daughter recently added some of my friends to her facebook. She needed more friends to play some of the games there. This wonderful thing happened when she did that. My so called mentally ill friends welcomed her and all of a sudden, she is being mentored online, supported, made to laugh during stressful times and I didnt ask anyone to do this. My precious friends have just done this on their own. Funny, all the normal people , well they havent done anything. I want to thank you (you know who you are). You are literally helping my daughter get thru school. There was one day her car was broken down and she was trying to reach me thru facebook as she didnt have a cell phone and most of the college was closed down. She actually has family members on facebook other than I and none of them responded or said anything. Friends of mine did say something and it was a joke, but she felt acknowledged and that someone was paying attention. She has alot of anxiety and stress due to school and often feels like she is not going to be able to do something school related and another friend has been encouraging her and giving her advice from her own personal experience with the same classes. Sometimes this is what gets her thru when I couldnt. LOL even tho I am giving advice gleaned from the exact person , its from "Mom" and for some reason its just better if it doesnt come from "Mom". I did not plan this when I told her my friends would accept her as a friend on facebook, so that she could enlarge her farm. I actually had no idea this would come about. I am so very greatful and I feel so blessed in having such friends. Thank you all so much. I love you.

8 comments:

Adelaide Dupont said...

Hi Raine:

It is hard for teenagers and young adults to take advice from their Mums, in particular.

Patty Duke said one factor was that they want to know what's going on now.

What more powerful force than the social networking in 2010?

And it's great to have friends like the ones you describe.

It's the experience sharing which is a central part of friendship and building these bonds.

Joyce's Ramblings said...

Raine,
I am so happy for you and your daughter. It isn't easy to be alone raising kids. Your grandchild has a happier mom with help from your friends.
I haven't gone to face book but thats okay. I doubt if there are too many great grand moms there.
Have a good week.

MagicalDarkness said...

its what people SHOULD do just accept people without judgment do not look at the outer exterior but look deep within the person. My personal statement is this.

True love/friendship does not come by finding the perfect person, But by finding perfection in an imperfect person.

mago said...

Hallo Raine - a good Sunday to you!

Jade said...

Gosh that feels like a lifetime ago when we met in chat. Many of us were clawing through some very tough times.

Chat brought a lot of unneccessary chaos into my life, but it also lead me to some very awesome people such as yourself, sera, donna, and a few others that are still hangin with me 4 years later.

Cool post Raine :-)

mago said...

Hello my dear, just dropping by ...

Dr. Deb said...

Networking is a very meaningful experience. It is so inspiring to read this post about your gratitude and experience.

mago said...

Raine, are you off this thing here?