Stalker and the police

R was seen by myself (R ) in the area of my home repeatedly over several months that we dated. He parks in various parking lots surrounding my home and watches my house and/or waits for me to appear when walking my dog or going to the store, etc etc. I talked to him about this many times and he denied stalking me. Finally I broke up with him over it and started keeping a record for a possible police report.
6-27-2009 R was seen by a visitor to my house, parked on the next street over, watching my car thru the fence
6-27-2009 between 9 and 10 p.m. My daughter (M) and I watched from backyard as R circled the Save-Mart parking lot in his red Toyota Camry. R parked in the parking for a while and never left his car. Then he exited the parking lot and drove to the Jack-in -the- box parking lot and parked there for a while. He returned to the Save-Mart parking lot and parked in front of Jamba Juice directly across the street from my apartment. I confronted him, he apologized and left.
6-29-2009 Neighbors reported having seen R parked in the Save-Mart parking lot at 1:30 a.m. Save-Mart closes at 1 a.m.
7-3-2009 1:53 a.m. I saw R sitting in his red Toyota truck in the Save-Mart parking lot with his head lights on, aimed directly towards my apartment. When he saw me watching him, he left, circled the block and drove back by my apartment again peering into my driveway.
7- 3-2009 7:45 p.m. I went to Save-Mart. I saw Rod in the parking the parking lot. He left and then re-entered. I went in the store to do my shopping and he went in also and managed to leave at the same time I was leaving. I spoke to him. I explained in detail about laws and informed him that I would press charges if he continued.
7-12-2009 I saw R in the Jack-in-the-box parking lot. He was sitting there parked. I asked him why he’d been doing what he had been doing and he stated that was jealous of a friend of mine and that he would stop stalking me.
7-18 -2009 I left to go to Merced at approximately 8:30 p.m. I returned at 11:20 p.m. and as I was pulling into my driveway I saw R in his Toyota Camry driving around the Save-mart parking lot. I watched from backyard and he did not enter any stores
7-18-2009 11:30 p.m. I took my dog out for a walk and saw R parked in the Jack-in-the-box parking lot where I confronted him once more. He said that he was not stalking me, he’d been in Save-Mart withdrawing money from the ATM. I asked for his receipt as proof. The receipt showed he had been there at 8:46 p.m. almost 3 hours earlier. I told him to quit stalking me and to go home.
7-25-2009 approximately 2 p.m. I left my apartment with a friend. I saw R in the Save-Mart parking lot where he watched me leave.
7-25-2009 9 p.m. I returned home and saw R drive by, peering into my driveway to see if I was there and who I was with . Upon entering my apartment my daughter said that she had seen him cruising the parking lots twice that day while I was gone.
7-26- 2009 5 p.m. I returned home from a wedding at 5 p.m. and took my dog out. I saw R drive by me.
7 p.m. I walked my dog and saw R sitting parked in the Jack-in-the-box parking lot in his Toyota Camry.
8-8:30 p.m. I had been watching and R had been parked there for the last hour and a half. I went to my neighbors ( B ,his personal information) B walked into the
parking lot, close to the car and checked to be sure it was R. It was R and within a few minutes B and I I watched him leave the parking lot and drive to the Save-Mart parking lot. I determined to report this and B said he would be a witness.
9p.m. B told me that he had he walked around the side of my apartment, out of curiosity and saw R sitting parked at Jamba Juice , directly across from apartment. B walked towards R and R left.
These are the occasions that I have seen him over the last few weeks. I can’t say how many times he has been watching me that I haven’t seen him.
R 7-27-2009
7-27-2009 between 1:30 and 2:00 p.m. approx. Went to the At Police Station at 750 B Rd and spoke to Officer Dayton Snyder who told me it wasnt illegal to be in a public place if no threats had been made. He said I could file for a restraining order and call police every time I saw him doing that but at the moment there was nothing he could do. After some expressed emotion, he agreed to have a talk with him . I left him with a copy of this with the names and addresses included.

http://www.stalkingalert.com/stalkinglaws.htm

death death death, I'm tired of it already

My Mother-in-Law died yesterday. It was a horrible death I think. She kept getting diarrhea and it got worse and worse and worse. She had a colonoscopy and they said colitis but I dont know that they actually did anything for it. Then she got a bloodclot in her leg and they gave her Cumadin. They Cumadin basically caused her entire colon to bleed and she had to have transfusions. The blood caused a reaction. The colitis kept getting more severe and she gave up eating. I understand she lost a horrendous amount of weight in 3 weeks. Its been said it was 45 pounds but I dont know for sure. How very sad and miserable. She was very good to me after T's death and I appreciate it. I will miss her. I'm really ready to have a few years where nobody dies on me. I would think my quota has been more than filled. I am afraid. Afraid that I will get older and older and everyone I know will die................ It seems to be happening already. I just thank God my kids and grandkids seem to be ok. The thing is tho, death seems to come on sooooooo very suddenly.......... No more please.

ramble on

I have been busy as can be trying to take care of my grandson and keeping my daughter calm thru her summer session of school. Shes been panicking about everything which I think is kind of normal as all my friends do the same thing. Shes gotten all A's tho and I am proud of that. But meanwhile, all her time has been devoted to schoolwork and all the housework and childcare has been on me. Which i fine, I am haapy to do it. However for that last few years I have lived alone or with T and it is not easy to readjust. I cant sleep whenever I need to, have no time for much of anything for myself, etc etc etc. Her paper is finished and we can relax for a few weeks. She still has to study for the final but its not taking all of her time like it was. I have been stuck in varying degrees of depression for a while now. Bad enough that I have gone back to Cymbalta (which nearly killed me with diarrhea before). I started out on the lowest dose and would dump half of the capsule out. It took two months at that stage (10 mg) before the diarrhea stopped. SO now I am up to 20 mg and have diarrhea again. I dont know if I have had a really serious depression or if its just not working at all. Time will tell I guess. I do know that I have been overwhelmed, unable to keep up with the basics of life. I have had "thoughts" which is why I went and tried Cymbalta again. The other day it was my daughters birthday and I bought her a bunk bed/ full sized futon for her and the baby. Used but in good shape. I had to take it apart to get it in the hosue. Then I was unable to put it back together. I tried for two days all the while , taking the dog for long walks with tears running down my face where no one could see me. I kept thinking " Torrey you asshole, if you hadnt gone and died on me this freakin bed would have been in the house and together better than ever in half an hour". I understand that grief comes in waves for a very long time after something like, but when you are already depressed well........I'll try to post more and be online more. The grandson starts preschool in a couple weeks and that will at least give me afternoons for cleaning and puter time and such. I miss everyone

Long overdue update

Well I should have posted long ago but theres been alot on my plate. My daughter started summer college courses and has been suffering considerable anxiety over it. " Mom what does this mean?" "Mom, how do I do this?" "mom" "Mom" Like I know LOL. There is little I can help her with as I only took USDA classes and a few classes that would get me into the USDA. There were no specific formats to use then for what I was taking. My friend Sera has given her some tips and my neighbor ( a history buff, that talks history even when you dont want to hear it LOL) has been kind of tutoring her. End result? First math exam- A, First history exam-A. YAY
I take care of my grandson while she is in school and studying so that keeps me very busy. Some of you may remember I met an older man while fishing last summer? Well we've played alot of Bingo and had a few meals......... He's been stalking me. I warned him the first time I caught him very firmly and loudly. Thought I had caught him again, but he said I was mistaken and I let it go. The last month I havent been saying anything, just watching. He has been blatantly stalking me. Every day, several hours a day. Other people have noticed. At any rate I waited til he was doing it again, ran across the street without using the crosswalk so I could get there faster and totally blasted him verbally. The last thing I said was if I catch him again, I will report it to the police, at which point he made a shushing gesture and I said " I dont give a shit, everybody sees you doing this, why not let them hear about it too?" He left at the point and I "think" he is taking me seriously now. I havent caught him since. And he is EASY too catch. I have actually mangaged to slip around buildings and come up behind his car and take his soda out of his hands before he knew I was there. I am better aat stalking the stalker, than he is at stalking me. At any rate, I wont be playing Bingo anymore so I might have more time online. On the same night that I blasted the stalker, my son and daughter had a massive blow out and disowned each other. VERY upsetting for me as I love them both dearly and eventually would like to have us all living close so that I can spend time with both of my kids and grandkids............ I do hope they get over it asap